Don't open

Posted, but only to you

A status or story with its audience narrowed to one contact. It looks like an ordinary public post. It reached exactly one inbox.

Don't open

Handed to you directly

A one-to-one message with the link inside it. Whoever sent it knows in advance that any reply could only have come from you.

Safe to answer

Out in the open

A link in a public bio, story or post. Anyone could be writing, so nobody can be narrowed down. This is what a link is for.

Keep the crowd in the equation

A public link protects the sender by leaving many possible people in view. A private link narrows that crowd.

  • If a link arrives in a private message, treat it as not anonymous.
  • Ask them to post it publicly instead, then answer from there.
  • Anyone you hand your own link to knows they're writing to you.